The Greatest Thing You Can Do For The Men In Your Life: Part 1

I was sitting on a yellow vintage couch in a beautiful home in Maui. I remember studying God’s truth with a few ladies my age. For a month we were going to go through the book “How to Pray for Your Future Husband” by Robin Jones Gunn. None of us were married, or were even dating for that matter.

One quote by her I’ll never forget though. It said, “Ladies, pray for your men. Satan’s game plan is to take down the leaders, the men. Only God’s Spirit can draw a man to seek Him and free him to be the man, and leader God wants for him to be. Whether you marry or not, DO BATTLE! Pray!”

Do battle I thought?


The girl whose dad laughed at the army recruiter when they called my house seeing if I wanted to join the army my senior year?

The girl who, although has gone on adventures all over the world, is scared to go on public buses, walk the streets of downtown L.A., and walk from my car to my house at night?

But I’ll never forget that afternoon, sitting there with those women, moved to the very depths of my soul, my spirit stirred deep within, saying “Yes! Fight for our men.”

My heart has been so heavy lately for boys and men in our culture. On average, boys are exposed to pornography at age 8-11. No longer is it a question of if they’ve seen porn or not, but whether or not they’re addicted, and most are. Video games are rampant in our culture. The most popular among games are ones that include high violence, and advancement to the next level is achieved by killing a certain number of people.

I see boys becoming apathetic, lazy, rebellious, angry. They have contests at school to see who can get the lowest GPA. They revel in one-night stands. They compete, trying to sleep with the most girls, or better yet, sleep with the most wanted girls. Boys are staying boys well into their 30′s, living at home and having their moms provide for them. So many boys grow up without fathers at home, or if they are home, they may not be present.

So where do these boys learn to be men?


The radio?

Older friends?

I’ve seen this over and over the past 3 years interning for the youth ministry at my church, and now working at a Christian high school.

It’s so easy for me to get sad, disheartened and discouraged. Where have all the good men gone!? What’s going to become of this next generation!? What’s going to happen when I have kids?

Have you ever found yourself asking these same questions?

There is nothing more that Satan wants than to steal, kill and destroy us. (John 10:10) And the best way to do that is to take down our men. God created men to be our leaders. When you go into battle, the goal is always to take down the leaders, the commanders, the king, because once they fall, you’ve got them all.

There is a battle going on that we can’t see. Most of us most likely won’t go into the army, we may not play sports, and we may be afraid to ride public transportation! But we are called to fight. Ladies, the time has come. Rise up. Commit yourself to prayer. Take up your shield of faith and the sword of the spirit.





We as women have a high calling on our lives. We have the joy of going before our Father’s throne and uplifting the men in our lives to Him. To the King of Kings. The Loving Father. The Holy God. The Mighty One. He is all-powerful and He is more than able to change hearts, stir in spirits, give wisdom to the humble, lead the weak, and give power. He sees us. He knows our hearts. He is raising up men for this generation to be like Him, to serve Him, to be laborers among the harvest, to disciple younger men, and you have the opportunity to join in on His work.

Don’t just pray for your future husband. Pray for your brother, father, pastors, professors, and friends.

Don’t sit on the sidelines and watch.

Gear up. Bow down. And pray. Watch God work, change, transform, and move in these men. He is faithful. He hears our cries. DO BATTLE.

“For a people shall dwell in Zion, in Jerusalem; you shall weep no more. He will surely be gracious to you at the sound of your cry. As soon as He hears it, He answers you” (Isaiah 30:19 ESV).

Ladies, do you pray for the men in your life?



  1. This is exactly what the Lord impressed me with two weeks ago. He gave me a simple strategy: Warring Women Wednesdays (WWW) to ask the women in my church and those that I am connected with to fast and pray every Wednesday for the men in our lives and the men in our church. I hadn’t read your blog before today when one of my sisters who is participating in WWW sent me the link. God is up to something!

    “I have set watchmen on your walls, O Jerusalem; They shall never hold their peace day or night. You who make mention of the Lord, do not keep silent, And give Him no rest till He establishes And till He makes Jerusalem a praise in the earth. “(Isaiah 62:6, 7 NKJV)

  2. Great lesson. As a mom I see my son growing up it scares me because there are so many temptations in the world. I see how society has made us believe that material things equates with happiness. I know he wonders why at 12, he cant be on FB or have an iphone but I let him know that no matter how much stuff he has, if doesnt have the love of God in his heart no one is really happy.

  3. Hi Alyssa, Great points! I think the most profound thing your husband has said about love and relationships is marry someone who is on the same mission as you are in life. It is good to see that you guys are appropriately yolked together and you also have a passion for speaking up for God and his eternal truth! We need more people and couples sharing their story about how they serve a powerful, almighty God who blesses them beyond their imagination. We need to see young men and women keeping it real and talking about their triumphs and struggles in walking out the Christian life. Keep sharing!

  4. I’m so blessed by your passion and words of wisdom. Thank you for the work you do alongside Jeff. You two have such a wonderful ministry and may God’s blessings be upon you as you serve together, speaking truth into our youth. Love you two!

  5. This was great! I’ve always been taught to pray for my future husband but I’ve never been taught how! How do you pray for someone that you have never met? I don’t know anything about him, where is he? what is he going through? what does he need to be encouraged with? All these things seem to pop in my head when I attempt to pray for my future husband….maybe you have some suggestions?

    Well this is only part 1 so i’ll continue and hopefully find some answers 🙂

  6. Hi Alyssa!

    When I went to share this on my friend’s facebook page a small summary or clip comes up at the bottom of the preview for the link but it has nothing to do with your blog. It’s actually about viagra for older men….just thought you might want to know…since it’s kinda awkward to share the link if it looks like I’m sharing something else!


  7. This was an awesome read Alyssa! So very encouarging as I have had a long and disheartened day. I hope to continute my long walk with God, even through the storms. The encouragement to keep praying was well needed. That battle you talked about is so very real and I want to be able to pray and pray contiunously with a genuine heart. Your writing is a great reminder of how God’s love is still present in a vulgar world we live in. Don’t stop writing.

    – Jasmin

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