Ladies, imagine your future sons turning out like your boyfriend. If that thought makes you cringe you should probably break up.
— Jefferson Bethke (@JeffersonBethke) June 2, 2014
I know it’s a weird thought, but ladies, if there is things in your boyfriend that you would cringe over if it was your child, that is a pretty significant problem don’t ya think? The truth of the matter too, is that most of us are on our best behavior when in a dating relationship. We are able to hide, to put our best foot forward, and to crop and edit ourselves to perfection. So if something makes you cringe in a dating relationship it will most likely be amplified if married. Hear me say this–I’m not talking about ordinary weakness. We all have that, and the beauty of marriage is the spouse sees everything you are (weakness and all) and says I still want you. That’s covenantal love.
If you see huge patterns of demeaning words, lack of love and encouragement, no drive for life or work, longstanding addiction to porn that he’s not addressing, well then..
you should probably break up.
*sidenote: the opposite is also true for great relationships. If you can picture your future kids turning out like your boyfriend or girlfriend, and you love that thought, then that folks is probably a keeper.
What do you think? Do you agree or disagree with the original tweet?
This is so encouraging!
This is really great on what to look for in a good man and what to avoid!