How To Fix The #1 Issue In Your Relationship

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The usual culprits of tension or hurt in a marriage, or the ones that seem to get all the air time, are finances and sex.

But I’d actually argue that if you go back and look at the last 10 arguments you’ve had with your spouse (or boyfriend/girlfriend) there is one underlying theme.

Bad communication.

Every single time Alyssa and I have a disagreement (whether it’s about kiddos, goals, or what way the toilet paper faces — don’t lie married folks, you know that’s you too!) I can usually trace it back to bad communication. The what might be something different each time, but 9 times out of 10, the why boils down to some form of unmet expectations that would’ve been a non issue had we communicated better beforehand.

The saying goes, a couple who has bad communication usually has a bad relationship. And a couple who has good communication usually has a good relationship.

Communication is the key to a healthy, vibrant, and loving relationship.

And here’s the truth — good communication isn’t usually something they teach in pre-marital counseling, but it’s even far more important in a romantic relationship than other relationships in our life.

Why?

Because the closer you are to someone, the more their words and your words matter (for good or for harm). And there’s usually no one closer than your spouse or boyfriend or girlfriend.

For example, some guy can cut me off in traffic and yell “you’re an idiot!” or “you’re worthless!” and I’d probably laugh it off. But if Alyssa said that to me? I’d be devastated. Crushed. Broken.

Words have more power the closer you are to someone. They can be the exact same words, but one would hurt much, much worse.

So let’s be people who communicate well. Who lift our spouses up. Who speak truth over them, not lies. And who understand that words have power to bring death or life, and I think we’d all much rather be the latter.

PS Alyssa and I just finished writing a quick ebook on communication we wanted to give away for free, to hopefully help and encourage couples out there. It’s a quick little handbook on communication and how to give yourself a couple ground rules to communicate well. Just put in your email and we will shoot the ebook to your inbox automatically!

 


 


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Also P.S.S. we are still doing FREE SHIPPING on our 31 Day Challenge bundle books. No better way to grow in your relationship than when doing a specific act of service, encouragement, and love every day for a month. It’s been so fun already seeing thousands of couples take the challenge and write in to us on how it’s transformed their relationship. Click here or the picture below to check it out!

 

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2 comments

  1. This is RIGHT ON TARGET…can’t wait to read the ebook with my husband! Thank you for always striving to put out there the things that God gives you for us! God bless your family!!

  2. Love your new website and that you have combined forces at one location. Communication is sooooo important and as a married couple of 40 years wish that more of this was around in our early years of marriage. We thank God everyday for keeping us together! Love you both and stay strong with your love for God & family!!

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